Week #4 - Worthiness

Sorry for the delay! I had some uploading problems.This week I want to talk about "worthiness."

Worthiness is perhaps the most essential ingredient in living a wholehearted life.  It’s also the greatest barrier to authenticity.

Interestingly, in my research I learned that cultivating worthiness only requires one thing:

Truly believing that we are worthy of love, respect, and belonging.

The only difference between people who had a strong sense of worthiness and those who struggled with “wondering if they were really enough” was a belief in worthiness.

The greatest challenge of believing in worthiness is letting go of the IFs and WHENs:

I’ll be worthy IF I lose 20 pounds.

I’ll be worthy WHEN I get a better job.

I’ll be worthy IF I make partner.

I’ll be worthy WHEN my husband comes back to me.

I’d be worthy IF I hadn’t have  . . .

You get the point. Most of us wrestle with a list of IFs and WHENs to worthiness.

The messages that fuel the IFs and WHENs took time to develop and it will take time to let them go, but we can start.

Here’s mine: I want to let go of the false idea that my worthiness hinges on me being perfectly balanced. I want to let go of the idea that I’m more worthy of love and belonging when I am not stressed, overcommitted, and overwhelmed. This thinking gets in the way of my authenticity because it makes me feel insecure about asking for help and/or slowing down.

What is one prerequisite to worthiness that you’d love to let go of?

How would letting go of this help you culitivate authenticity?